Friday, September 25, 2020

To be continued... eye

 We went to the followup appointment with the pediatric optist/opthamologist after patching for 4 hours a day for 6 weeks.  His eyes look totally healthy and they have no reasons for his 20/50 vision in the left eye.  The next step is an MRI to see if something is pinching the nerve.  I'm at the point where I just hope he has inexplicable blindness in one eye, instead of there being a growth or other reason for the loss of sight in otherwise healthy looking eyes.

B let his work slide last week.  He missed computer time for it.  This week he didn't work Wednesday and Thursday so he got no computer, and then no dinner Thursday night.  Friday dawned and I let him be hungry.  He had 2 cheesesticks and some carrots until he finished his work at 5.  Then he got to eat the pizza and treats I packed for him.  I think he learned that he can do the work and must do the work.  

B's sunbeam teacher said "With that smile B gets whatever he wants."  Could be true.  But what monster would he become if he just learns to manipulate and get others to do his work for him.  As he languished on the floor this morning, not getting his work done, M tried to help him.  I told her that he was manipulating her.  Then I said this was good practice since she was never going to meet someone more good looking than B.  So she could learn to see how he was tricking her into doing his work, and that is bad!  

We had a miscarriage before I was pregnant with B.  He's a rainbow baby and also such a likeable child AND the hair.  We adore him so much and as hard as it is to not give in to his sweet smile, we want for him to have confidence in himself borne of experience.  He can do the work.  He can hold himself to a high standard of kindness and self control. 

Thursday, September 10, 2020

kindle

 


     B asked for a kindle for his birthday back in April.  I didn't think he was ready for one, as his siblings got them at 8 or older.  Then several months after his birthday he was still wishing for one so I found a nice used on.  He had some particular idea in mind about the cover and he tore the one I made off, and now the kindle is lost.  Yay for 7 year olds.  He's also been lashing out and hitting a lot.  We miss the little sweet guy he was.  But with age comes new emotions and frustration he has to learn to master. 

    I saw a meme that raising sons is like breaking up in slow motion.  This is certainly true with B.  He used to be so affectionate but at 6 he stopped liking hugs and kisses.  He is particular about who and how he is touched, which I certainly respect.  It's his body and he is is in charge of it.